Do you need to make a change in your life?
Make sure you have the right mentality: you’re not taking away, you’re adding in. For example, don’t think “I have to fight less with my partner,” think “I will love and communicate better with my partner.”
Jennifer Tuma-Young, certified life coach and author of Balance Your Life, Balance the Scale, knows how to reach goals. Use her advice to start making the changes you want, today.
Taking Away vs. Adding In
Sometimes when we are aware that we’d like to make a change, we think about all the things we think we’ve done wrong or we have to stop doing. I know a lot of people who are just plain old beating themselves up in the name of motivation.
Choosing to let something go can be quite liberating. But if you think you don’t have a choice and must do something, you may wind up feeling deprived. If you find that you are discouraged and drowning in a take-away mentality, I suggest flipping your focus to what you want to add in to your life vs. what you want to take away. Once you start adding in healthy, happy, authentic behaviors, your body and mind will crave more of them, and as a result, more of them will flow naturally into your life! Let’s look at some examples:
Take-away mentality: I have to give up sweets.
Add-in mentality: I will eat more veggies.
Take-away mentality: I have to fight less with my partner.
Add-in mentality: I will love and communicate better with my
Take-away mentality: I have to lose this job and do something
I really love.
Add-in mentality: I will put passion into whatever I am doing.
Jennifer Tuma-Young’s book, Balance Your Life, Balance the Scale, is available from HarperOne.